Today was NOT my son's day. Poor kid. The insurance company called and told us that after the garage got done taking the bumper guard off his car, after the rear end collision, it turned out there was quite a bit of damage and it would cost way more to fix it than to total it. So the insurance company told us what they would give us for it. He is unhappy...although, I am slightly relieved becuz it is his dad's old car, it is 12 years old and has quite a few miles on it. It was sounding a little rough and I figured it wouldn't last too much longer. His dad has already found him a replacement (maybe) in better shape, less miles, and (this was the 'selling' point for my son) has a kick ass stereo. Although the stereo won't get him around safely, I know it is important to him!
Just as he was starting to feel a bit better about all of that...his girlfriend dumped him. She cheated on him then dumped him. I, being the Mom, feel badly for him, yet, am kinda not so broke up about it myself. I try not to judge...but when it comes to your kids it is difficult NOT to be picky. Yeah...not my choice for him. She was VERY 'overbearing' and controlling. Believe me...if there's anything I know about...
I, on the other hand, am relieved to find out that I only have one test in class this Tuesday instead of the two I was expecting. I'm ready for this one. Just have to finish writing my paper. And I will.
The other thing that has been bugging me may seem weird but...Britney Spears. Shaved her head and got a tatoo in a rather 'out of the way' place. Said she was tired of ppl touching her! Yeah, she has finally lost it. Like Anna Nicole Smith...hello, MOMs? I know you can only do so much...but in Britney's case...I think the mom should have been a little MORE controlling and teaching her daughter some things...like what NOT to do in public, some manners...
I know there are some ppl that are attention suckers. I had at least one kid every year...they were STARVED for attention. Sometimes it was becuz Mom &/or Dad had too many problems of their own that they didn't know how to deal with OR the parents were just too busy NOT being a grown-up. The kids that tried to get attention with bad behavior found out quickly that I didn't play that game. I played to their strengths...found something to build them up about and gave them attention for that! Cut down on a lot of discipline problems. Most of the time it worked. Very few times did it not. Most ppl want to be praised for something. Not just kids. Everyone needs to know that they are worth something. The only ones I have a difficult time dealing with are the ones that want to be complimented on their looks all the time.
I had a little girl in my 3rd grade class named Rebecca. She was a cute little thing..short for her age, big blue eyes, long thick blond hair, dimples...and she already knew how to use it to her advantage...except with me. She would stand there at my desk and show me her dimples and bat her eyes and figure she'd skate away as usual. I made her do her work...I worked with her...and worked...and I KNEW she had a perfectly good brain but couldn't figure out why she wouldn't use it! Then I had a conference with Grandma...not sure what had happened to the parents but Grandma was raising Rebecca and her 2 siblings. Grandma told me that I shouldn't push Rebecca so hard on her work becuz she was so cute that she got whatever she wanted in life without having to work at it...and she always would! Lord.

I said, "Well, heaven forbid it should happen, but...what happens IF she gets in a disfiguring accident someday...then what? She has a really good brain and it is a shame to let it just lay there and do nothing!" The Grandmother's eyes got big and she just stared at me...I looked at Rebecca and she looked the same way. No response. So, I just told them that I was just trying to help Rebecca get even further in life.
Amazingly, whether or not it sunk in with Grandma...it must have sunk in with Rebecca. She started really working on her lessons. Before I knew it she was a high B/low A student. And the other kids in the class were astonished. I praised her continuously on her intelligence and kept feeding her more difficult tasks. She thrived on challenges after all! And I was really proud of her!
Too bad someone didn't say something to Britney.